Monday, May 20, 2013

Typical behavioral patterns and problems (Babies, First year)


Initially, babies are totally dependent on you and rely on you to meet their every need. Your baby will be happiest if you respond sensitively and can calm him when he is upset. This includes making sure that he is comfortable, not only physically ( warm, clean, fed, and winded ) but also emotionally.

Babies need comfort, reassurance and emotional stability, especially when things don't feel right. You can provide this by cuddling your baby, speaking to him in a gentle voice or singing to him and distracting him from upsets by walking him around and showing him interesting surroundings. Babies need the right level of stimulation: not too much excitement, yet enough stimulation to enable them to learn, and you can work this out by observing, listening and taking your cues from your child.

There is increasing evidence from early infant studies that the patterns of interaction between carer and child can predict behavior at an older age. Parents who overwhelm their babies with demands to 'perfom' in a certain way, talk at them or do things to them in an intrusive way without watching their cues are more likely to have children who avoid instructions from parents in later life, developing attention and behavioral problems. Those who respond sensitively, watching their child and developing a gentle 'to and fro' dialogue at the child's pace, are more likely to be setting the foundations for positive social behavior in a child. Tuning in early to your child's needs will set him up for life. You can make a huge difference by providing this for our baby.

Over time, babies form a deep attachment to their main care givers, but also benefit greatly from having good relationships with other people, such as their grandparents, close family, friends, and other consistent, sensitive carers to whom they can also become strongly attached.

The quality of caring is more important than whether the person is a relative. As long as a baby's main attachment figure returns and she can develop trust that this will happen, she will thrive. If, however, your baby finds that most of the time you reject her when she needs you most, that you are unable to soothe her or that you are too exhausted to enjoy her, she will develop an insecure attachment to you.
She may show this by being overly anxious and clingy (wanting to be near you all the time), being upset rather than pleased when she sees you after a separation, or even avoiding you and appearing to be independent without needing you.

If you are not the main carer, it may be difficult for you if your child seems to prefer the nanny or grandparent to you. However, if you have to work, as long as your child gets good day care, and you spend some quality time with her everyday and you take time to look after yourself too, your child will become attached to you, and will benefit in the longer term from the role model that you provide as a working parent.

Normal emotional development and behavior in Children.

Saturday, May 18, 2013

Normal emotional development and behavior in Children.


It is helpful to have an idea of how your child's behavior may change as he or she develops, so that you can recognize what is normal and when you should be concerned.

Many types of normal behavior can be problematic, and your tolerance levels for these may vary more with your mood than with the child's behavior itself. A good understanding of normal difficult behavior can help you respond appropriately and more sensitively to your child at the time when he needs you most.

Children are not all the same. All children vary and develop in their own way. Your child may be difficult from his peers, but whether he is considered normal will depend on the expectations of those around him. A typical "geek" or "bookworm" may be bullied in a non-academic environment or highly valued in an intellectual one. A child who is more interested in football than work may be seen as a hero in a local community, even if he cant sit still in class, and yet would be deemed a failure in a strict academic school or family.

A change of environment may be the solution if your child is not tolerated for being different. It is up to you to encourage your child to take pride in what he is capable of and to praise him consistently for any achievements, whether they happen in football or maths.

What is considered to be 'normal' will vary not only from one child to another, but also from one family or culture to another. If your child is from a different culture or background from his peers, she may be less tolerated simply because of that difference. In some cultures and families, behavior that is accepted as normal in a boy would not be acceptable in a girl.
Boys may be 'macho', aggressive and dominant, whereas girls may be "expected" to be submissive, caring and obedient.

Increasingly, today, families are more mobile and more multi-ethnic. They are less likely to have a support network, and more likely to be exposed to cultural differences. In the context, especially if you have moved to a new area, your child may be different from his peers and be teased as a result. She will almost certainly want to be like all the others and may put herself down for being different. It is up to you to encourage her to be proud of how and whom she is.


Wednesday, May 8, 2013

HOW I CAN HELP YOU : The ABC's Of STI Prevention



By Dr Sanmi Obajuluwa
Continuation.......

Before I mailed the finished version of this article to the editors, i ran it past a little "cohort" study of mine, just to get a feel of what the response would be. I was completely amazed by the feedback i got. The lack of awareness was staggering!
Initially it was a topic of jest, but as the discussion progressed it became apparent that not enough of the sexually active population or demographic are well informed about STIs. People tend to give funny faces and reactions when you try to talk about sex or STIs, maybe it is because they are uncomfortable, then again they could just be plain unhappy that they are being warned to keep away from their favourite past time. "Hence is ignorance bliss?"
"No!" Ignorance is not bliss, ignorance is living with that sore, itch, discharge, painful swelling or annoying smell that just wont go away. "Knowledge is freedom". Let us take a look at a few more bugs on our list ...

Chlamydia
 Among sexually active men, the number of Chlamydia infections is much higher. Although often symptomless in men, chlamydia can cause inflammation of the testicles, prostate and urethra. The consequences for women are more serious. Chlamydia may be difficult to detect because early-stage infections often cause few or no signs and symptoms. symptoms usually start one to three weeks after you've been exposed to chlamydia. Even when signs and symptoms do occur, they're often mild and passing, making them easy to overlook. Signs and symptoms may include:
  • Painful urination
  • Lower abdominal pain
  • Vaginal discharge in women
  • Discharge from the penis in men
  • Pain during sexual intercourse in women
  • Testicular pain in men
Untreated infections are a leading cause of pelvic inflammatory disease, ectopic pregnancies, and sometimes infertility. Thanks to expanded screening for this easy-to-get bacterial infection, more people who carry the bug are being diagnosed and treated with antibiotics. That should help reduce transmission of chlamydia. But many people with the infection still don’t know they have it. That means almost two out of three people infected with this bug don’t know they have it -- and go can go on spreading it.

Syphilis

Italians called it “the Spanish disease.” The French dubbed it “the English disease.” Among Russians, it was known as “the Polish disease.” Among Arabs? “The disease of Christians.”
No one wanted to claim it, and with good reason. The disease, syphilis, begins by causing crusty sores in private places. After hiding out in the body for years, it can emerge to drive people insane and then kill them.
The signs and symptoms of syphilis may occur in four stages — primary, secondary, latent and tertiary. There's also a condition known as congenital syphilis, which occurs when a pregnant woman with syphilis passes the disease to her unborn infant. Congenital syphilis can be disabling, even life-threatening, so it's important for a pregnant woman with syphilis to be treated.
Primary
These signs may occur from 10 days to three months after exposure:
  • A small, painless sore (chancre) on the part of your body where the infection was transmitted, usually your genitals, rectum, tongue or lips. A single chancre is typical, but there may be multiple sores.
  • Enlarged lymph nodes.
Signs and symptoms of primary syphilis typically disappear without treatment, but the underlying disease remains and may reappear in the second (secondary) or third (tertiary) stage.
Secondary
Signs and symptoms of secondary syphilis may begin two to 10 weeks after the chancre appears, and may include:
  • Rash marked by red or reddish-brown, penny-sized sores over any area of your body, including your palms and soles
  • Fever
  • Fatigue and a vague feeling of discomfort
  • Soreness and aching
These signs and symptoms may disappear within a few weeks or repeatedly come and go for as long as a year.

Latent
In some people, a period called latent syphilis — in which no symptoms are present — may follow the secondary stage. Signs and symptoms may never return, or the disease may progress to the tertiary stage.
Tertiary
Without treatment, syphilis bacteria may spread, leading to serious internal organ damage and death years after the original infection.
Some of the signs and symptoms of tertiary syphilis include:
  • Neurological problems. These may include stroke and infection and inflammation of the membranes and fluid surrounding the brain and spinal cord (meningitis). Other problems may include poor muscle coordination, numbness, paralysis, deafness or visual problems. Personality changes and dementia also are possible.
  • Cardiovascular problems. These may include bulging (aneurysm) and inflammation of the aorta — your body's major artery — and of other blood vessels. Syphilis may also cause valvular heart disease, such as aortic valve problems.
What’s more, having syphilis increases the danger of being infected with HIV/AIDS at least two- to five-fold.

Hepatitis symptoms

Hepatitis A, hepatitis B and hepatitis C are all contagious viral infections that affect the liver. Hepatitis B and C are the most serious of the three, but each can cause your liver to become inflamed. Some people never develop signs or symptoms. But for those who do, signs and symptoms may occur after several weeks and may include:
  • Fatigue
  • Nausea and vomiting
  • Abdominal pain or discomfort, especially in the area of your liver on your right side beneath your lower ribs
  • Loss of appetite
  • Fever
  • Dark urine
  • Muscle or joint pain
  • Itching
  • Yellowing of your skin and the whites of your eyes (jaundice)



Genital Herpies
Genital herpes is highly contagious and caused by a type of the herpes simplex virus (HSV). HSV enters the body through small breaks in the skin or mucous membranes. Most people with HSV never know they have it, because they have no signs or symptoms. The signs and symptoms of HSV can be so mild they go unnoticed. When signs and symptoms are noticeable, the first episode is generally the worst. Some people never experience a second episode. Other people, however, can experience recurrent episodes over a period of decades. When present, genital herpes signs and symptoms may include:
  • Small, red bumps, blisters (vesicles) or open sores (ulcers) in the genital, anal and nearby areas
  • Pain or itching around the genital area, buttocks and inner thighs
The initial symptom of genital herpes usually is pain or itching, beginning within a few weeks after exposure to an infected sexual partner. After several days, small, red bumps may appear. They then rupture, becoming ulcers that ooze or bleed. Eventually, scabs form and the ulcers heal.
In women, sores can erupt in the vaginal area, external genitals, buttocks, anus or cervix. In men, sores can appear on the penis, scrotum, buttocks, anus or thighs, or inside the urethra, the tube from the bladder through the penis. It may also be painful to urinate. During an initial episode, you may have flu-like signs and symptoms, such as headache, muscle aches and fever, as well as swollen lymph nodes in your groin.
In some cases, the infection can be active and contagious even when sores aren't present. Good news on this bad guy, numbers are on the decline according to recent studies.

Genital warts (HPV infection)

Genital warts, caused by the human papillomavirus (HPV), are one of the most common types of STDs. The signs and symptoms of genital warts include:
  • Small, flesh-colored or gray swellings in your genital area
  • Several warts close together that take on a cauliflower shape
  • Itching or discomfort in your genital area
  • Bleeding with intercourse
Often, however, genital warts cause no symptoms. Genital warts may be as small as 1 millimeter in diameter or may multiply into large clusters.
In women, genital warts can grow on the vulva, the walls of the vagina, the area between the external genitals and the anus, and the cervix. In men, they may occur on the tip or shaft of the penis, the scrotum, or the anus. Genital warts can also develop in the mouth or throat of a person who has had oral sex with an infected person.

HIV

HIV is an infection with the human immunodeficiency virus. HIV interferes with the body's ability to effectively fight off viruses, bacteria and fungi that cause disease and it can lead to AIDS, a chronic, life-threatening disease.
When first infected with HIV, a person may have no symptoms at all. Some people develop a flu-like illness, usually two to six weeks after being infected.
Early signs and symptoms
Early HIV signs and symptoms may include:

  • Fever
  • Headache
  • Sore throat
  • Swollen lymph glands
  • Rash
  • Fatigue
These early signs and symptoms usually disappear within a week to a month and are often mistaken for those of another viral infection. During this period, the person is very infectious. More-persistent or -severe symptoms of HIV infection may not appear for 10 years or more after the initial infection.
As the virus continues to multiply and destroy immune cells, the person may develop mild infections or chronic signs and symptoms such as:
  • Swollen lymph nodes — often one of the first signs of HIV infection
  • Diarrhea
  • Weight loss
  • Fever
  • Cough and shortness of breath
Later stage HIV infection
Signs and symptoms of later stage HIV infection include:

  • Persistent, unexplained fatigue
  • Soaking night sweats
  • Shaking chills or fever higher than 100.4 F (38 C) for several weeks
  • Swelling of lymph nodes for more than three months
  • Chronic diarrhea
  • Persistent headaches
  • Unusual, opportunistic infections

 

The ABCs of STI Prevention

You’d think advice on how to prevent sexually transmitted diseases would be noncontroversial, right? Wrong. Like so much else these days, STI prevention advice is a political hot potato. Some sides want to focus exclusively on abstinence and monogamy in marriage. Others say more should be done to promote condoms.
To keep everyone happy, public health officials have latched on to an easy-to-remember acronym for prevention: "ABC." A is for “abstinence.” B is for “be faithful.” C is for “condom.”
Obviously, the only foolproof way to prevent STIs is to avoid sex. The second most effective way is to settle down and live happily -- and faithfully -- ever after with a sexual partner who is free of infections. That’s great if you can manage it. But let’s face it -- plenty of people these days are sexually active, with more than one partner. In that case, especially if you aren’t sure whether you or your partner may have an STI, using a condom is critical.
The bottom line: Condoms don’t offer 100% protection, but they can certainly lower your risk -- and the risk of your partner.
If you were able to read through this mess of information then my work here is done as I have been able to help……

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